Many of our fabulous couples have lived very interesting lives – so it’s up to the students to be investigative and to ask them interesting questions and then listen to the answers….which can reveal other great questions to ask!
Our couples are volunteers. They give their time and travel sometimes quite extensively to help deliver Explore sessions. They are not ‘model marriages’ or in anyway ‘smug’ or perfect. They are real people, with real lives, real issues and real problems that they have found a way to over-come. They are often recruited through church communities and want to genuinely ‘give something back’ to their community. They are briefed by our team carefully, so that they only answer questions based on their own relationship. They will answer anything at all that a student asks. We simply ask students to be respectful – which means not laughing at other student’s questions – and by listening to the answer given. Students are introduced to the couple/s following a routine ‘Hopes & Fears’ discussion. This helps students frame their questions around topics that they have themselves identified as important to themselves.
Our volunteers tell us that they enjoy interacting with students and that as a result of participating with Explore, their own relationship is enriched and energised. Many couples take part several times each year and thanks to the questions students ask, we keep finding out new things about them too!
Naturally all our volunteers are DBS checked.
Couples are not allowed to ask students questions or to ask why a particular question has been asked. They will only answer questions asked by the students themselves, not by the teachers – who are respectfully asked to observe in silence.